Look, is romance a risk?

Imaginary conversation with a dumbfounded respondent as I try to get what I mean by 'worlding' across as a framework fo the self/world ratio or Janus dance.

Look, is romance a risk?

(yes)

and when you move to take that risk, i mean, have you always rejected that risk?

(no)

so, when you take the risk on in a romance, in that time before the "early days", when you "do" a choice, you are aware that it may not work out?

(yes, of course)

now then, the next time, despite what you learn or fail to learn, when you take up the risk of romance again, do you do it for yourself or for the world?

(?)

Exercises:

① How would a narcissist respond to the final (?) ?

② In particular, how would a narcissist remove the risk?

③ Is there any real romance without the risk?

DISCUSSION: If the world and the self are part of the same process, then it is risk that keeps them separate. To deny or control risk is the narcissists first port of call in the storm that is called (confoundlingly) the reality principle. The world goes on because we take risks. Empathy is always a risk, just as much as it is also a risk management method where it creates and maintains the world [a favour bank at very least] — markets and their values are a derivative product of this credit building service.